By way of example, you find a couple who love each other and who’re actively engaged in spiritual growth. If one in the partnership has personal growth issues related to "fear of betrayal in love” that one will have “stuff” in the consciousness that causes him or her to act out thoughts of loss and abandonment. What this one does not realize is he or she responds to a sub-conscious pattern, one surfacing at the particular time for realignment and cleansing.

What often happens is the "fear of betrayal" individual stirs up painful personal issues within the relationship in an attempt to correct and grow beyond the restrictive pattern. It invariably occurs that this one introduces an outsider with perceived shared interests into the partnership pattern as a sort of "test of love" for the one it shares the relationship with.

Once the 3rd – invited in – individual gains the attention of the “wrong” partner (by this we mean the partner trapped in a relationship that feels both loving and constricting), the "fear of betrayal" partner immediately begins to act out of the fear of loss vibration.

The fear-filled one invariably makes matters worse by slamming the door in the face of the invitee, who may or may not be mature enough to understand the reasons for the sudden ejection from the newly formed friendship circle. If this third individual is subtle enough to sense repudiation from the "fear of betrayal" partner, this one avoids disaster by:

• Recognizing the pattern
  
  
• Realizing it has nothing to do with him or her personally and everything to do with the Ego-entrapped partner dwelling in fear of betrayal.

Once realization hits it’s important to keep the fields of energy clear, as the partner engaged in betrayal dramas is looking for someone to play the role of “fall person.” If the mature energy recognizes the pattern, it must, of its own free will, release itself from further interaction, for no good will come from shared energies that have been so improperly activated.

The best defense, in this case, is an active invocation of the purifying Violet consuming flame to heal, protect, and release ALL from harmful consequences. This is enough. No other action need be taken.

The role of “betrayer” is thereby neatly sidestepped and the one with the issues must accept his or her role in actively releasing behaviors that cause such harm.

All drama occurs within the Ego

With our particular couple, Partner #1 (the one trapped in the “betrayal of love” vibration) may have certain personal attributes that are highly valued by Partner #2, the one who permitted the partnership to occur in the first place.

For example, Partner #1 may be quite wealthy while Partner #2 may have ego needs for financial security. As long as the need for financial security is more important to Partner #2 than the need for free expression all is “well.” Once Partner #2 starts valuing “free expression” more than “financial security” then problems begin in the relationship.

The third brought in by Partner #1 may exhibit certain behaviors that appear exceedingly attractive to Partner #2 -- behaviors such as no fear surrounding the issue of poverty. If, in this instance, the fear of poverty proves less substantial than the loss of free expression, then the fight for free expression in Partner #2 begins. All this may be triggered quite innocently by a third who simply accepts an invitation to dinner. The stuff drawn in thru insecurity in either or both partners need not be accepted as “truth” by this third. If it is not, then displaced energy has nowhere to go except back to the partnership that would have displaced its issues on an innocent 3rd party.

Were the 3rd insufficiently mature to see the pattern at play, this one may get caught up in others’ scenarios, and find the self hurting thru no fault of which it is aware. This one then begins to manufacture a source for the feelings of being feared for no justifiable reason, and may, in turn, start acting out of its personal issues, which may be something along the lines of “fear of rejection.”

All of a sudden, what began as an enjoyable affair consisting of conversation and shared nourishment, takes a sinister turn. The 3rd senses – quite correctly – that something is not quite right here, and starts turning over in the mind exactly what it might have been done to “cause” the imbalance around the energies it feels, for it is a sensitive soul. What was meant to be a time of joyful fun and camaraderie turns into situational politics, where fears are unleashed in all forms due to the lack of mature understanding on the part of those engaged in this suddenly-created drama.

Given the weakness in the blueprint of the trigger point (Partner #1), it’s unlikely Partner #1 will prove strong enough to overcome the "fear of betrayal" and move forward joyously. Given the fear of poverty in Partner #2, it is equally unlikely Partner #2 will step forward to mend the energies with the 3rd, knowing as this one does the consequences such a move would have on an already unstable blueprint.

It is now left to the third, most innocent bystander, to recognize all that is occurring, and to act out of loving appreciation for the Self ensnared in such unlovely patterns. It is this third, very innocent party that must have sufficient maturity to turn away from all offers to feel discomfort for the role he or she may have played in the situation, and offer, in its place, gratitude to the Most High for clarifying the situation, then swift action to cleanse and protect Self from the negative frequencies being sent his or her way.

Such action eases the situation for all concerned, whether or not the 3rd ever receives an invitation inside the partnership circle again.

It is in this way that a single one, seeing and sensing clearly the thought projections at hand may be able to protect the personal self while assisting others who are in need of such assistance. In this instance it is best the 3rd stay away from engaging these frequencies altogether – at least for a while. The work done consciously to heal and support the blueprint creates the protection required. The purified frequencies of the violet flame are likely to bring all previously hidden issues to the foreground for forgiveness and resolution. The resolution will only be positive for all concerned if the various fears are released and true love, appreciation, and respect engaged by all parties in place of the multiform fears that previously existed.

By so doing, growth and freedom occurs for all.